tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661692846644337864.post4321328158443717168..comments2023-09-08T02:30:37.988-07:00Comments on Finding A Way: Day 12Allison Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13209209338090537285noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661692846644337864.post-21904691112036148282010-09-14T18:18:19.184-07:002010-09-14T18:18:19.184-07:00Beautiful Allison. Beautiful.Beautiful Allison. Beautiful.Judd and Katy Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02090206561142868556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661692846644337864.post-63912055312959880652010-09-14T17:33:33.343-07:002010-09-14T17:33:33.343-07:00I thought I knew what sacrifice was when I left ev...I thought I knew what sacrifice was when I left everything and went to college... and then I thought I really knew when I married Aaron... but nothing, absolutely nothing compares to the self sacrifices you have to make once you have a baby. Nothing of "you" is yours anymore... it's all your beloved baby's and whats left is your husbands... and then there is overlap where they both want the same parts of you for totally different reasons... that's a whole other struggle you will have to figure out. Communicate with everyone. Moms, friends, family, definitely your husband, and always with God. I won't lie.... I had an extremely difficult first few months with Maddie, and once that got better, I found struggles in other areas of life. My role, intimacy with Aaron, and wanting to be "me". I'm not through it, but being molded. I don't know if that helps, but it helps to say it... for me at least. And it helped me to know I wasn't alone and a bad mom for feeling this way about so much. Don't smile if you don't feel like it, but always try to brush your teeth in the mornings... even if you don't feel like it. That will help. : ) Always keep Ben up to date, even if you are just repeating yourself. That helps even more.<br />~JaclynAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661692846644337864.post-6938143117720841862010-09-14T17:20:19.340-07:002010-09-14T17:20:19.340-07:00Yes, you are doing the hardest thing you probably ...Yes, you are doing the hardest thing you probably have ever done. On all levels, physically, emotionally, and spiritually - you aren't quite your own anymore. Sure, you experienced some changes of yourself and life when you got married, but now there is a tiny life totally dependent on you for so many things. You'll experience all sorts of changes in these next few years, but ultimately in the end, it will be absolutely worth it. It's amazing how children make you realize your own imperfections and bring out all sorts of things in yourself you never saw before. And they do change a marriage, but in good ways. If you continue to work on your relationships with as much fervor and attention as you did before (which is a little more difficult now that you have less time & energy) the evolution of them isn't necessarily bad. You'll probably also realize the things in life that really truly matter. This may be in the way you spend your time, money, resources, or even in the relationships you keep. <br /><br />Truly parenting is a wonderful experience. You learn daily what grace is about. I never fully understood unconditional love and sacrifice until having children. And you'll find new rhythms and ways of doing life. It's definitely different, and some days I still mourn what children take the place of - but overall it sharpens us as mothers and draws us close to the Creator of that life in your arms. He's only yours of a little while to steward. Enjoy every precious moment. (And it's okay to have moments you don't enjoy! )<br /><br />Love you!<br />MichelleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661692846644337864.post-43761840507487315032010-09-14T14:11:35.986-07:002010-09-14T14:11:35.986-07:00Allison,
I love your honesty. Even when wonderfu...Allison, <br /><br />I love your honesty. Even when wonderful changes in our lives occur there is usually a time of mourning for the life that once was or the life that cannot be because of the new path you are on. So few people want to admit this because of fear that people will look at them as unappreciative. Although Reed is a gift that I know you would never give up, your role in life has shifted from Allison to Reed's Mom. Certain goals and dreams you have are either going to have to wait or shift into something different. For someone who likes to methodically achieve your goals, it is going to be hard to let that control go. You are totally NORMAL. Mourn for the life that will no longer be but don't forget to celebrate the life path you do get to follow. Whatever dreams or goals you had before if they are meant to be will eventually come to fruition and along the way you'll have a wonderful little redheaded helper. <br /><br />Love You,<br />LaurenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-661692846644337864.post-68145472094889654202010-09-14T14:11:19.303-07:002010-09-14T14:11:19.303-07:00Make a goal to accomplish one thing each day besid...Make a goal to accomplish one thing each day besides eating, sleeping and taking care of the baby. Usually that goal will be to take a shower. Sometimes that goal is a nap. It does get easier and more routine and you sleep again, I promise. Keep asking others for help. As soon as you can, venture out alone. Even the grocery store. It helps to have room to breathe and to periodically eat a meal with both hands. :) Rock and hold him, rock and hold him. Relax in the rhythm you will soon find. <br />-SarahFreshPerspectivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17475439131815668018noreply@blogger.com